We called her to wish her a happy birthday and she replied with her standard statement – “am too old to be celebrating birthdays and I shouldn’t be around for the next one”. Last year she was actually unwell and just unable to enjoy her special day. This year she is not around … just like she wanted. This is one wish of hers that did come true.
It’s my mother-in-law’s birthday today and that special woman is definitely celebrating in heaven with her husband, her son, her brother and my dad. Amma and my dad were so alike and got along well.
My mother-in-law was something else … she welcomed me into the family with a kiss as soon as Krishnan tied the mangalsutra around my neck to solemnise our marriage. How many daughter-in-laws have been that lucky? She stood like a rock behind us through every challenge in life and I can’t forget that night in the Patparganj house when we were still not out of our financial mess. Krishnan and I had disagreed on something and she immediately told Krishnan – “Bindu is right, if you do something stupid, I won’t support you. She is my daughter now.” This is the lady who had the gumption to take on unjustified societal norms and was a true feminist.
Am sure she is celebrating the Supreme Court’s verdict today on Triple Talaq. If only she had become a lawyer like she always wanted to – she would have been at the forefront of this fight. She believed women and men were equals and stood by that !
Happy birthday Amma…. we miss you but know that you are right here with us in spirit, free of all the pain and happy to see us happy. Next year I will wear a new sari on your birthday and celebrate. I have been thinking of you since morning as am sure Krishnan, Nachi, Kousalya and Dhanush have been. We miss you and miss you lots.