Wish everyone a Merry Christmas !!
If there was a central message that Jesus Christ had, it was love… and so, here’s an excerpt from Osho’s book “The wild geese and the water” about love. Osho always spoke about rising in love rather than falling in love and in this excerpt he speaks about love as freedom. Just a great message.
“Love is non-possessive because love’s very essence is freedom. If you love a person you would like the person to be absolutely free. And if you love somebody you can love only if you have loved yourself before it. That is a precondition. You cannot love others if you are not in deep love with yourself. The first, the foremost love is love for oneself. When the flame starts burning in you… love for oneself…
It has not been told to you for centuries, in fact just the opposite has been taught. ‘Don’t love yourself, it is selfish,’ they say, ‘Love others!’ Even Christians who think they are following Christ have misinterpreted his tremendously significant statement. He says: ‘Love your enemies like yourself’. They have taken only half of it; they say, ‘Love your enemies,’ but they have forgotten the basic condition. Jesus says,’Love your enemies like yourself,’ but if you don’t love yourself, in what way are you going to love your enemies? What will be the criterion? First you have to love yourself, then you can even love your enemies – what to say about friends? What to say about lovers?
The first love has to happen within yourself; it is something inner. It happens only when you become silent, aware, meditative, when you get out of the mind. Mind is possessive, mind is dictatorial, mind is a despot. It wants to dominate, because the centre of the mind is the ego and the ego can ride on anything – any horse will do. Money will do, power will do, knowledge will do, asceticism will do, virtue will do, love will do – even love! Even love will be converted into a horse and the ego can ride on it.”
Self love … Louise Hay says the same thing in a different way. Most of the “dis-eases” have a psychosomatic reason and often its to do with not loving the person you are or not enough self-love. One of the affirmations that she gets people to say is “I love and approve of myself” and just that affirmation itself helps many people overcome illnesses. Self love, having a good self esteem and basically being able to approve of oneself is so tough. We look into the mirror and find faults – when in reality, we are perfect as we are. The entire plastic surgery industry will fold up if only people could develop self love. I understand the need for plastic surgery when someone has been in an accident or has some birth condition like a harelip etc that need rectification but in normal people, there is such a huge urge to “improve” how they look !! Each of us is beautiful in our own way. Each of us is perfect just the way we are.
And remember what Osho says right in the beginning – love’s very essence is freedom. Set your love free. It will be returned manifold. Possessiveness is juvenile and leads to heartache. No one likes being possessed.
Spread more love and cheer on this special day, starting with yourself. Merry Christmas.