Last week, one of the mornings I got into an argument with Krishnan over something trivial. He dropped some stuff while giving the trash to the garbage collector and I started giving him a lecture on how exactly to hand over the trash without dropping it :):). It was just one of those days when I was riled up for no reason and everything seemed wrong.
Just when the whole thing was about to blow out of proportion I did something that I have never done before – I just went into the bathroom and took a shower. I abruptly stopped arguing and told Krishnan that I am going to take a shower and just left. Ten minutes later, I forgot what I was so bugged about and was laughing at my own grand angry statements !!
Changing the scene changes the mood and anger is just a terrible emotion to give vent to, especially in meetings, or with loved ones. Many of us are not evolved to the extent where you can just become aware of the angry energy and then wait for it to change like my guru Osho suggests, but changing the scene is possible for most of us. When you see yourself getting angry, just ask for a timeout – step out of the room, splash water on your face, punch a pillow, take a shower, go for a walk, listen to your favourite song – whatever changes the energy to something more normal.
Try and let me know if it works… it worked for me, and am glad it did because its so easy for me to give vent to my anger and just say nonsense that I don’t mean.